Self-love is regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. When you build self-love, you will strike a healthier balance between the way you perceive yourself, your goals and even your limiting beliefs.
Are you highly self-critical? Do you beat yourself up over failures? Are you working too much? Do you push too hard without giving yourself time to breathe? Are you constantly feeling the need to compete, outperform others and move ahead of the pack? Do you live with shame or a sense of not being good enough?
We live in a society that regularly tells us that you need to achieve more so that you are considered successful. You need to work harder, win, be perfect, be the best all in the name of success. Having goals and dreams to pursue so that you can live a fulfilled life is perfectly acceptable but at what cost?
How often do you stop to consider whether this self-critical and competitive attitude is actually helping you to achieve these goals? Perhaps being so hard on yourself might actually be standing in your way?
Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the respect of others.
When you have low self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You might constantly worry that you aren’t good enough. When you build self-love, you not only build your self-esteem, you will also have more confidence to live the meaningful life you want.
We all need to build self-love however, the way we need to do it for ourselves will differ person to person. This is because none of us have had the same life experiences. Often when we are stuck on our self-love journey, there are underlining factors that hold us back form moving forward.
Review the following to help you build Self-love:
Clients come to me when they realise that they have a problem with building self-love by themselves. They struggle with consistency and feel like they aren’t moving forward with this work. They can see how their self-sabotaging thoughts or talk is limiting their abilities but they do not know how to stop.
Have some reflection time and consider if any of the below may be holding you back from building Self-love:
So, you aren’t perfect, and you have flaws. Do you realise that seven billion other humans fit this same description?
You must find a way to love yourself: mistakes, regrets, weaknesses, and all. You are valuable and important, and to be happy you must discover a path that leads you to love yourself.
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic.
You grow to love yourself by behaving in positive ways that help you physically, psychologically, and spiritually. You can’t let failure or imperfection keep you from growing love for yourself.
This is a complicated psychological skill that you absolutely have to master through practice: loving yourself, without exceptions or qualifications.
Superpowers develop as you love yourself.
Puja McClymont is a certified Life Coach supporting ambitious women in senior-level roles, entrepreneurs and high profile individuals to be empowered by who they are and what they want from love, life & work.