If you’ve been into self-development for a while, you’re probably familiar with the way we talk to ourselves. In order to stop using language that harms you requires a lot of self-awareness and a willing to change. but it’s actually incredibly amazing, how much the language we use actually affects us.
It’s easy to use common words that seem harmless when we’re working towards something. Take this example: “I have to apply for at least 10 jobs a week” – on the face of it, the line is clear, is action oriented and possibly motivating. But the danger word here is “have” as in “have to.” Whilst in literal terms, you may have to apply to many jobs in order to get a new one, putting the word have to makes it a demand which sits differently inside our minds. A better way of saying this would be “I will apply to 10 jobs each week.” This is much more assertive, it’s a clear goal and it’s motivating.
It’s important to pay attention to the language we use so that we’re not getting in our way when it comes to our goals. With only a couple of weeks left until the year end, you might be thinking about what you’ve achieved this year and possibly what you could achieve or you might just right off December because of the festivities. But there’s still time and opportunity to get closer to what you want. And the language you use will play an important role here.
Puja McClymont – certified coach, wisdom teacher, speaker and host of the SELF Care 101 podcast.
As a life and leadership coach, I help mission-driven individuals who are seeking direction, to gain clarity, by expanding their inner awareness through the ancient wisdom teachings of Ayurveda and Yoga; so that they can lead more purposeful and fulfilling lives.
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