In the pursuit of success, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that your achievements should be the sole source of your worth.
But this is a trap. You need to detach your worth from your achievements to truly be successful.
Your achievements are just one piece of the puzzle, which is why you need to detach your self-worth to them. Otherwise, you’re setting yourself up for a tough ride.
The first step to detach your worth from your achievements is to realise that it’s okay not to be perfect. You don’t need to be able to do everything, or even want to. Don’t let people make you feel guilty for not being able to keep up with them or do what they do. Learn when enough is enough—and don’t stress about it!
The second step is learning how to listen and observe others without comparing yourself too much. When someone has achieved something amazing, try taking a moment before jumping on board with their success and congratulating them. Think about what they’ve done and why it’s so important—don’t just assume because they did it, so can you! This will help put things in perspective while also showing others that their accomplishments are valued by everyone around them—not just themselves.
It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of what other people think of you.
Whether it’s a friend, a boss, or even your mother-in-law, it’s so easy to let what they say or do define your worth. And that’s not just bad for your self-esteem—it can also be bad for your career.
Here’s why: When you let others determine how much you value yourself, they have control over whether or not you get promoted and whether or not you’re seen as an asset to the company. That means they can keep you in that entry-level position if they want to, and they can keep you from getting the recognition and promotion that would help advance your career.
So how do you detach your worth from your achievements? By remembering that your worth comes from within yourself—not from external sources. When you start valuing yourself for who you are and what you offer, then you start being able to ask for what you want—and you start getting it!
When we’re young, we’re taught to value our achievements. We’re told that if we do well in school, we’ll get good results and be accepted into a good universities. If we get good results in universities, we’ll get a good job after graduation. And if we work hard at the job, we’ll be promoted and make more money.
But as the years go on, it can feel like all of those things are working against us—and it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters: our self-worth. This is why you need to learn to detach your worth from your achievements.
It’s easy to let external validation drive us forward—to believe that because other people see us as successful or smart or capable, they must be right. But when this happens, our self-worth becomes linked with external things like status or wealth or awards—things that can change quickly and unexpectedly.
The fact is that your worth as a person isn’t tied up in your achievements—and it never will be. When you detach your worth from your achievements, it doesn’t matter how many amazing things you do in your life. It doesn’t matter how many people love you and praise you for what you’ve done. And it doesn’t matter how many awards you get and how many accolades come your way. Because ultimately, none of it will ever make you more lovable or more worthy of love than the moment before.
And that’s because your worth isn’t something that can be measured by anyone else’s opinion of you; it’s something only YOU can decide for yourself.
Puja McClymont – certified coach, wisdom teacher, speaker and host of the SELF Care 101 podcast.
As a life and leadership coach, I help mission-driven individuals who are seeking direction, to gain clarity, by expanding their inner awareness through the ancient wisdom teachings of Ayurveda and Yoga; so that they can lead more purposeful and fulfilling lives.
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