How To Focus On Your Relationship
It’s easy to lose sight of the fact that your relationship should be the most important thing in your life. In this day and age, we’re constantly bombarded with distractions. Whether it’s an endless stream of relationship posts on social media. Or the expectations from loved ones and society, there are just so many things vying for our attention. As a result, our relationships often get pushed to the bottom of the priority list.
Your relationship is what matters most. It’s what keeps you grounded when all else fails, and it’s what keeps you coming back to each other time and time again.
In this article I explore how to focus on your relationship so that you can feel more connected to your partner without the distractions.
Distractions take you away from focussing on your relationship
You have to first recognise that external distractions exist and that you need to take steps to minimise them as much as possible. Distractions to most relationships fall under two categories. 1) What you see externally as a successful relationship and 2) The expectations of loved ones and society.
Let’s look at both categories to understand how you can navigate the distractions and stay focussed on your relationship.
1. External expectations of a successful relationship
Social media is a sure-fire way to get distracted from your relationship. This can happen when you’re scrolling whilst eating, sleeping or even watching TV together. If you don’t allow time and space to focus on your relationship, it will suffer.
Being distracted by what other people are doing especially in their relationships will have a detrimental effect on the health of your own. Be mindful of what you see on social media as a curated feed never tells the whole story.
You know that relationships take work and are not rosy all of the time. Being more mindful of how you consume external images of ‘perfect relationships’ will help you not project those false impressions on to your own.
The best and easiest way to do this is to not be distracted by your phone in any way. Any notification will take you away from the present and makes the other person feel less important.
2. Expectations of loved ones
Your relationship is the most important thing in your life. It’s the one thing that matters most, and you can’t let anything else get in the way of your bond with your partner.
But sometimes it can be hard to focus on a relationship when there are so many other things going on. Maybe you have kids, or a job, or even just a lot of friends pulling at your attention. It’s easy to let those things crowd out what’s really important—and that’s your relationship.
Some of these situations can’t be avoided but you can make time to be present with your partner even for just 5 minutes a day.
Steal the moments that exist within your daily routine and other distractions and make them count. This focus on your relationship keeps your bond strong and helps you to stay connected to each other even amidst the chaos.
Making your relationship work, takes work
You have to focus on your relationship if you want to make it work by giving it priority over everything else that comes up. Work, family, friends, financial obligations—you name it, all those distractions exist but can co-exist alongside your relationship goals.
Your relationship will change and grow as time passes, and so will the things that come up in your life—that’s just life! But if you’re committed to putting the relationship first, then nothing can stand in the way of what you want most. A strong and happy bond with your partner for as long as possible!
Take these 3 steps if you’re feeling like your relationship has lost focus
- Set aside time each week to focus on your relationship—even if it’s just an hour or two (or even daily moments)
- Set aside time each month to do something special with your partner—a date night or a trip somewhere fun!
- Make sure that you’re not working so much that you don’t have time for each other anymore; remember what brought you together in the first place!
Staying focussed on your relationship
Ensure you identify the external distractions that take you away from focussing on your relationship. It is important that you take steps to remove them from your life. You can do this by setting boundaries with other people. Making sure that you schedule time for yourself and your partner also helps you to stay focussed on each other.
It is also important to make sure that there are no internal distractions that are preventing you from focusing on your relationship. If there are any internal distractions present in your life, then they need to be addressed immediately so that they do not become an issue later down the line.
The most important thing to remember when dealing with external and internal distractions is not to let them stop you from being happy with who you are and how you are in your relationship.
I’m Puja McClymont. I specialise in coaching senior leaders who make an impact to help them expand the possibilities of their potential, creating further growth and meaningful impact.
Through my distinctive approach which combines ancient wisdom with modern psychology, clients enable every facet of their lives to thrive, creating extraordinary outcomes.
