We live in a world where cancel culture reigns supreme and empathy seems to be on the decline. As a result, it’s easy to get lost in the noise of societal expectations. The pressure to conform to predefined notions of success often leads us down a path of comparison and self-doubt. But what if we took a moment to redefine success on our own terms?
Success has become a loaded term, tainted by societal standards and fleeting validations. We often measure success against external benchmarks, forgetting that its true value lies in the individual’s interpretation. In the chaos of our busy lives, we lose sight of what success means to us personally. It’s time to reclaim the narrative and create a definition that resonates with our unique journey.
My own reflection on success was triggered by a significant life event – becoming a parent at 43. Suddenly, the clock seemed to tick louder, reminding me of the limited time ahead. As I grappled with the realities of mortality, I found the motivation to stop procrastinating and pursue the goals I had merely dreamt of.
The conventional milestones of success, once defined by societal norms, began to shift. It wasn’t about retirement cruises and financial portfolios anymore. Instead, success became intertwined with health, meaningful relationships, and a purposeful existence.
To redefine success, I took a deep dive into my own life plan. Creating a spreadsheet with years until retirement and mortality forces you to confront the reality of time. It’s a challenging exercise that requires compassion and introspection. The numbers on the screen become a mirror reflecting your life’s trajectory.
The perspective gained from this exercise is transformative. Whether overwhelmed by the seemingly insurmountable goals or content with accomplishments, the insight gained is invaluable. It’s an opportunity to grieve, celebrate, or reassess your life plan.
Change is inevitable, and success should be dynamic, adapting to the different stages of life. As priorities shift, redefine your goals accordingly. Ask yourself the tough questions: What do you truly want? What are you willing to do to achieve those goals? What support do you need?
Success isn’t an isolated pursuit; it’s a creative act that contributes to personal fulfilment. Balancing achievement with a meaningful contribution to the world creates a profound sense of purpose. Success and significance are not mutually exclusive; they complement each other, enriching our lives and leaving a positive impact on the world.
Success isn’t a dirty word; it’s a tool for self-discovery and growth. By reframing the meaning of success at different stages of life, we empower ourselves to thrive. It’s about living each day with purpose, creating a life that aligns with our values, and leaving a legacy of significance.
Join me on this journey of self-discovery and redefine success on your terms. Embrace the power of perspective, confront your fears, and cultivate a life that reflects your deepest desires. Success is not a one-size-fits-all concept – it’s a personal, evolving journey towards fulfilment.
I’m Puja McClymont. I specialise in coaching senior leaders who make an impact to help them expand the possibilities of their potential, creating further growth and meaningful impact.
Through my distinctive approach which combines ancient wisdom with modern psychology, clients enable every facet of their lives to thrive, creating extraordinary outcomes.